The Meaning of Our Thoughts

A couple of months ago I saw this picture by Brian Andreas in my Instagram feed (connect with me there if you haven’t already). When I first read this quote it immediately grabbed my attention and stopped me from scrolling on.

You see, I was having a bad day when I saw this. I was feeling down in the dumps about some things that were going on in my life. Things just weren’t going well. Everything just seemed really tough, and no matter what I tried, I couldn’t get out of the negative feelings I was experiencing. Seeing this post was the wake-up call that I needed in that moment. It clued me in on what I was doing – trying to make meaning of my thinking and control my thoughts. There is no need to do that!

Our thoughts are just that, thoughts. That’s all they are. Thoughts are totally neutral until we give them meaning. We don’t have to take them seriously, judge them, or give them meaning. Doing so only clogs our minds up even more. Thought is transitory by nature. When we don’t attach to a thought, it goes away on its own. Our experience is only created through thought. Understanding the thought-feeling connection is where our peace of mind comes from and helps us to struggle less in life.

Love & blessings,

Our Willing Participation

When I first read this, it stung. A LOT! Ouch! But, it’s so true. It seems a lot easier to look for blame elsewhere instead of taking responsibility for our own lives. I think it’s just a natural response to misunderstanding where our experience comes from. That’s all. When we think that our feelings are coming from something else other than thought, then we do stuff like blaming. We just do what we know best to do in the moment. Understanding that our human experience is only created through thought leads to more clarity and peace of mind.

Love & blessings,

Our Responsibility

Our tranquility, happiness, and peace of mind only come from within. How we experience life only comes from the energy of Thought. When we think that we are feeling something other than Thought, we are putting the responsibility for our experience on something or someone else. This then leads to wasting our time blaming and waiting for our happiness, success, and whatever else we want in our life, “to come.” A major part of our responsibility is understanding that life only works one way – from the inside out.

Love & blessings,

Honoring My Grandmother

The picture above is of my beloved grandmother and myself. She and I were “best, best girlfriends.” I can still hear her voice calling me that, and it warms my heart. I was blessed to live with my grandmother while I was growing up, and now, as an adult, I am still benefiting from her wisdom. I’m thinking about her even more this week because July 11th would have been my grandmother’s 101st birthday.

One of the things my grandmother would say to me a lot was, “You’re sitting on a million bucks and don’t even know it.” Those words have stuck with me for years. Unfortunately, I didn’t understand what she was trying to teach me until after her death. You see, it took me years, and many mistakes, to see for myself that I already had the ability and capability inside me to succeed at whatever I set my mind to. I believed my fears and negative thoughts. This stunted my relationship with myself and affected my relationships with others. Basically, I wasn’t living up to my God-given potential. My grandmother saw it, and thankfully I woke up to it as well.

I’m so grateful to her for her support. In essence, she was one of my first life coaches. And, best of all her, my personal growth is benefiting my children because it’s helping me to parent better. In honor of my grandmother’s birthday, I am offering a package of 3 coaching sessions for $101 for mothers of elementary, middle, or high school aged children who want some support in fulfilling their God-given potential so they can better be there for their children. I’d like to ask for your help in getting the word out. I’d love to help as many people as I can. Who do you know who is mom struggling to see her potential right now? Who do you know who’s stuck dealing with emotional, relationship, or job issues, feeling trapped and needing help figuring it out? I’m not asking for any contact information. I ask that you share this offer with whoever comes to mind for you and ask them to email me. The sign-up period for this offer is until July 31, 2017. Thank you!

Love & blessings,

Where does freedom really come from?

Today we celebrate our independence as a nation here in the United States. At the same time, so many of its citizens do not feel entirely free. Many people in this “land of the free” are persecuted and discriminated against for many reasons – skin color, gender, financial status, education level, sexual orientation, past mistakes, and more. We’re free, but not really free? That’s a misunderstanding for sure. So, where does freedom really come from? In order to clear up the misunderstanding on the outside, we have to start with clearing up the misunderstanding on the inside. We’re free not because of what people say or determine for us. And, neither do our physical circumstances determine our freedom. Our freedom comes from within.

Love & blessings,

My Kids and My Thoughts

I’ve had a lot on my mind lately, along with feeling overwhelmed and frustrated at times. School is out, so the kids are at home with me. Need I say more? My normal daily routine has changed. I still need to get done what I need to get done, but then there’s my kids’ requests (ok, my original word was demands) to play, and my quiet workspace has been overtaken by their laughter, loud arguments, and bouncing balls. Sometimes I feel like I just can’t get anything done. Can you relate to the struggle?

I could say more, but the most important thing I can say is that it’s all ok. Really? YES! I know that my feelings aren’t coming from my kids or from the changes to my routine and workspace. Sometimes I lose my bearings, and I just focus on the feelings of overwhelm and frustrations. Other times they don’t bother me as much. That’s just how life works. Our emotions normally go high and low. When we see that and that our experience (feelings) comes from thought, it frees us from trying to fix or control ourselves, others, or our circumstances.

We are connected to the Wisdom behind life. And, as Luke 1:37 tells us, “For nothing will be impossible with God.”‬ That’s a fact of life that helps me through it all. Whatever it is I need, whatever I need to get done, God is always there supporting and guiding. When I just go to Him, instead of letting my negative thoughts guide me, I get the answers that I need. But, we can block ourselves off from hearing Wisdom when we get caught up in our thinking, believing that our experience is coming from something other than thought.

Love & blessings,

Which Thoughts to Use?

“Each day in our life we have probably thousands and thousands of thoughts going through our head. Some are good. Some are bad. Some are positive. Some are negative. Now, this is where your free will comes in. You have the free will to use whichever thoughts you want to. That’s quite different. Now, if you have a bad thought, you don’t always act on it. It’d be a terrible life if everybody acted on their bad thoughts. You just ignore them, and you act on the good thoughts.” – Sydney Banks

Equipped By Design

Whatever situation or circumstance we face, we are equipped by design to handle it. The same Wisdom that’s behind life is within each and everyone of us, always speaking to us and guiding us. The only thing that blocks us from seeing it is thought.

We live in a thought generated reality, so what we think is what we see. Whenever we think we can’t handle something, that’s a made up illusion through thought. Fear, stress, worry, those are all made up too. Our feelings don’t come from anything outside of us. They come through thought. When we think that our experiences, our feelings, are being created from the outside-in, that is what trips us up.

Love & blessings,

“How Do You Do It?”

I have experienced, and still do, many challenges with raising four kids. Some days it feels easier than others. Many times I get asked, “How do you do it?” My answer is that I’ve learned a lot along the way. Understanding the inside-out nature of life has helped me to make a positive shift in my parenting and a transformation in my life. To share it in a nutshell, we all are connected to the Intelligence behind life so we always have access to Wisdom, we were created with the power to think, and it’s our awareness of our thinking that makes our thoughts come alive. Pointing myself back to that has decreased a lot of my struggles. I used to think that my kids’ behavior was what was making me feel so mad and irritated all the time. So, I thought that I needed to control them so their behavior would change and I would feel better. It didn’t work!

When I really understood that my feelings were not being created from something outside of my power to think and that our feelings naturally fluctuate as our thoughts change, that’s when things changed in my life. If I had to sum it up in one word it would be liberating. I realized that trying to control my kids, my thinking, or anything else to change how I’m feeling is not my job to do. It’s the same thing for all of us.

Love & blessings,

Feelings Are Valid and Neutral

Have you ever felt an uncomfortable feeling in response to doing, or attempting to do, something different or unknown? I have! And, to be honest, I still do sometimes. It’s not always an enjoyable experience. In fact, it can feel awful. But, I’ve learned an important lesson about it: feeling uncomfortable about an action we took or waiting for the uncomfortable to go away before we take action is not necessary. Here’s why: the uncomfortable feeling is only telling us about our thoughts in the moment. The uncomfortable feeling is not telling us anything about what we have already done or about whether or not we should take action. Feelings are valid and neutral. Our feelings only mean what we THINK they mean. If we decide to wait until we feel like doing something, or until we feel comfortable, we could be waiting for a long time. And, where does that leave us? Feeling stuck! What action are you not taking and need some support with?

Love & blessings,